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Chaque famille porte une m\u00e9lodie, un rite de pri\u00e8re et des coutumes re\u00e7ues des g\u00e9n\u00e9rations pr\u00e9c\u00e9dentes. Ce lien peut donner des racines et de l\u2019assurance, mais ne doit pas devenir une barri\u00e8re de m\u00e9pris envers ceux qui agissent autrement.<\/p>\n<h2>L\u2019unit\u00e9 n\u2019est pas l\u2019uniformit\u00e9<\/h2>\n<p>On peut appartenir au m\u00eame peuple tout en suivant des rites de pri\u00e8re diff\u00e9rents. Reconna\u00eetre les diff\u00e9rences n\u2019exige pas de renoncer \u00e0 la tradition familiale, et la pr\u00e9server n\u2019autorise pas \u00e0 blesser la dignit\u00e9 d\u2019autrui. La question pratique est la mani\u00e8re d\u2019en parler : avec curiosit\u00e9 et respect, ou pour d\u00e9montrer une sup\u00e9riorit\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p>M\u00eame lorsqu\u2019un d\u00e9saccord halakhique appara\u00eet, il faut distinguer la clarification de la r\u00e8gle d\u2019un jugement global sur une communaut\u00e9 enti\u00e8re. L\u2019origine d\u2019une personne ne mesure ni ses qualit\u00e9s, ni son savoir, ni sa valeur.<\/p>\n<h2>Quand les coutumes se rencontrent dans un m\u00eame foyer<\/h2>\n<p>Conjoints et membres d\u2019une famille peuvent venir de milieux diff\u00e9rents. Il est utile de pr\u00e9ciser ensemble les coutumes importantes pour chacun, l\u2019usage du foyer et les questions n\u00e9cessitant un avis halakhique. En parler \u00e0 l\u2019avance peut \u00e9viter un conflit \u00e0 la table de f\u00eate ou devant les enfants.<\/p>\n<p>Plut\u00f4t que d\u2019exiger une d\u00e9cision sous l\u2019effet de la col\u00e8re, on peut consulter un rabbin qui conna\u00eet la situation. L\u2019explication doit \u00eatre pr\u00e9cise et respectueuse, sans pr\u00e9senter la famille de l\u2019un comme si elle avait toujours v\u00e9cu dans l\u2019erreur.<\/p>\n<h2>Respect des \u00e9rudits et discussion de fond<\/h2>\n<p>Un d\u00e9saccord visant \u00e0 \u00e9claircir demande de traiter les paroles d\u2019autrui avec soin. On peut \u00e9tudier une autre opinion, en v\u00e9rifier les sources et m\u00eame la contester, sans passer \u00e0 la moquerie ni \u00e0 l\u2019humiliation. Un titre provocateur ou une phrase sortie de son contexte ne remplace pas l\u2019\u00e9tude.<\/p>\n<p>Cette responsabilit\u00e9 concerne aussi les \u00e9crits en ligne. Avant de r\u00e9pondre, mieux vaut lire le propos entier, v\u00e9rifier ce qui a \u00e9t\u00e9 dit et se demander si la r\u00e9ponse apporte de la compr\u00e9hension ou seulement de la col\u00e8re.<\/p>\n<h2>De petits gestes de rapprochement<\/h2>\n<p>On peut interroger quelqu\u2019un sur les coutumes de sa famille, l\u2019inviter \u00e0 \u00e9tudier, l\u2019aider en cas de besoin ou faire place \u00e0 un rite qui nous est inconnu. La rencontre personnelle d\u00e9fait parfois des pr\u00e9jug\u00e9s qu\u2019un d\u00e9bat th\u00e9orique ne parvient pas \u00e0 changer.<\/p>\n<p>L\u2019amour d\u2019Isra\u00ebl se mesure \u00e0 notre relation avec la personne r\u00e9elle qui se tient devant nous. Il n\u2019efface ni les limites ni les d\u00e9saccords, mais oblige \u00e0 y pr\u00e9server la dignit\u00e9 d\u2019autrui. La tradition se maintient ainsi sans devenir un instrument de division.<\/p>\n<p><small>Pour approfondir : L\u00e9vitique 19, amour d\u2019autrui ; Avot 5, controverse au nom du Ciel ; Ora\u2019h Le\u2018Ha\u00efm, Vayikra, explication de l\u2019unit\u00e9.<\/small><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><\/main><\/p>\n<footer class=\"es-footer\">\n<p>Rav Emanuel Shahar \u00b7 Tiferet Malchut Shlomo<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/emanuelshahar.com\/?page_id=20361&#038;lang=fr\">\u00c0 propos du Rav<\/a> \u00b7 <a href=\"https:\/\/emanuelshahar.com\/?page_id=50003&#038;lang=fr\">Conditions d\u2019utilisation<\/a><\/p>\n<nav class=\"es-langs\" aria-label=\"Langue\"><a href=\"https:\/\/emanuelshahar.com\/?page_id=22&#038;lang=he\" hreflang=\"he\" lang=\"he\">\u05e2\u05d1\u05e8\u05d9\u05ea<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/emanuelshahar.com\/?page_id=1052&#038;lang=en\" hreflang=\"en\" lang=\"en\">English<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/emanuelshahar.com\/?page_id=1053&#038;lang=fr\" hreflang=\"fr\" lang=\"fr\" aria-current=\"page\">Fran\u00e7ais<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/emanuelshahar.com\/?page_id=1054&#038;lang=ar\" hreflang=\"ar\" lang=\"ar\">\u0627\u0644\u0639\u0631\u0628\u064a\u0629<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/emanuelshahar.com\/?page_id=20074&#038;lang=es\" hreflang=\"es\" lang=\"es\">Espa\u00f1ol<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/emanuelshahar.com\/?page_id=20369&#038;lang=fa\" hreflang=\"fa\" lang=\"fa\">\u0641\u0627\u0631\u0633\u06cc<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/emanuelshahar.com\/?page_id=20374&#038;lang=tr\" hreflang=\"tr\" lang=\"tr\">T\u00fcrk\u00e7e<\/a><\/nav>\n<\/footer>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>La tradition juive s\u2019est transmise dans de nombreuses communaut\u00e9s, en diverses langues et dans des conditions de vie changeantes. 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